Play Fight

Play fight ! 

Yesterday I tried this new group therapy based as it's name says on playing and fighting . The game is supposed to bring back up some hidden emotional traumas we all suffered as children
"Don't fight with your siblings , it is ugly". A kind of late bloomer rebellion.

The group is made up ten people of both sex seated in circle. The annoying thing about these new age group is the crowd: men with un groomed beards , smelly feet with protruding nails, and yellow teeth from smoking joints, dressed like scarecrows. Women are even worse: piercings and tattoos everywhere, purple hair , unshaved and surrounded by this resilient smell of rotten incense.

As in the Chinese proverb "from the muddiest waters grow the beautiful white lotus" two participants stood out the crowd: an innocent cute blond girl wearing a neat gym outfit , as if she was doing her daily yoga and a gentle good looking boy, clean and smiling. Two renaissance angels from the bourgeoisie in the middle of revolted dirty anarchists.

Rules are simply and cruel. Use any means during 5 minutes to pin the opponent on the hard wooden floor during 5 seconds...

The first volunteer can choose whom to fight. A shaggy thin guy with long legs and a heavy metal T-shirt comes into the circle and summons the cute boy to wrestle with him.
Polite, he accepts and immediately gets violently thrown on the ground. His head banging on the floor. But he wriggles out of the lock. Annoyed, his adversary holds his arms and tries to tackle him again. To no avail. The cute boy manages every time to wriggle out of the scarecrow's claws. The 5 minutes are over. The game is called off. 0-0. Both fighters are out of breath. The cute boy is bruised. He combs his disheveled hair with his hand. The other people in the circle are laughing : "you guys looked like two monkeys" says one scornfully.

The second fighter is an old fat woman with a greasy grey pony tail. She summons the blond school girl. And the slaughter starts. Before 5 minutes , she is tackled and trampled by the witch who triumphs. The blond sheds a tear , she feels that she was ridiculous. People around try to comfort her. Actually she looked like a Barbie being thrown up and down by a mean step-mother. She excuses herself and leaves.

The game goes on for one more hour. A father wrestles his teenage son. Two tattooed girls wrestle against each other, half laughing half fighting. After each game, people confess how they felt during the fight.
"It was challenging but fun"
"It was like being a child again"
.………

It is the last round. A cold blue-eyed muscular skin head is challenging the others. Nobody moves. The referee says that the game won't be over until someone takes up the fight.

To everyone's surprise, the cute elegant boy stands again and announces that he is fighting: " I need to overcome my fears" he explains. The skin head grins. He looks like a tiger who is about to devour his prey. The cute boy defends himself with the energy of despair. Again, thanks to his flexibility and skills, he manages to get out of each tackle. Perfidious , the skin head even tries to strangle him. The referee finally intervenes: "look in his eyes, the power is your confidence, be more aggressive" he screams at the cute boy.

The last minute of the game, the big skin head is taken aback. The boy is on him almost all the time, but he is light and cannot pin him onto the ground, although he wears him out by his multiple assaults.

Game is over: 0-0.

The first attacker, the sleazy guy with thin long legs snorts that the boy wanted people to pity him, that is why he chose to fight again.

Gasping, the skin head admits that he admires the boy who dared defying him.

The referee calls the end of the session and everyone prays and pay the therapist. Bruises are called fight kisses and are normal, he jokingly adds.

"People join this group for different emotional reasons : fight a fear , a frustration , as a sign of rebellion or self- affirmation? "

Nevertheless, the cute boy thanked everyone politely with a hug and leaves alone limping.

Algès, November 2017

Goodies of the day

Good deeds of the day
28.12.2016
Touch the cock of the German twink
Swindled the lousy French during my tour
Made a wash machine and fixed the tumble
Turned down nicely the blind, stutter, scoliosis Victor for yoga
Restrained from overeating at the Nepalese
02.01.2017
Managed not to spend the holidays alone
Practiced yoga everyday
Met the nice Rob again
Slept very well though drunk
Made a great feijoada
06.01.2017
Made it to the worst birthday party ever: ate and drank to throwing up and cougars chatting up drunk young guys : Pavel, Luis Falcão, Mike and me. Even had fun ;-) and brought lasagnes back home
Got rid of the disgusting nosy neighbor
Made a great evaluation on Toastmasters
Managed to give a great tour this morning after practicing yoga
Accepted a cute gay for July
08.01.2017
Accepted the junk from my Brazilian students on a Sunday morning
Went to the acroyoga jam first and did the best I could with everyone
Contact dance - jam like crazy for one hour with a sturdy little Portuguese
Paid with all the coins I had
Had nice lasagna dinner at the neighbors and even brought back some for home
10.01
Accepted another French tour
Got lots of free food and lasagnas
Went to Kung fu and showed off
Helped Genta, published four events and newsletter
Was nice to the Belgian because he has a very nice outie
Friday 13th
Went to Kung-fu again
Managed to sleep at 00h but woke up at 4h
Did my yoga and abs
Have an excellent tour - had coffee on the terrace
Went to the Romanian film festival - "luxe hotel 1992"
Had two cups of red for free but had to stand the boring speeches
Got four gym pants and a tight T-shirt for 1€ each, of which I offered one to Mike
26.01.2017
Went to all women theater impro as a king in Estoril
Learned by heart all my lines for the Hindi theater
Acro jammed with Ennio, saw his body again under and over me
Hugged and based the mother fucker Galician Christ again
Great contemporary dance that ended up in tasca dos mouros and desterro ( renovated my quota)
29.01.2017
Celebrated Chinese New Year at the restaurant with the group of poets
Organized our first training acro sequence and based the muscular Luis
Full success of the fantastic French movie and made profit ; learned to spot for the insolite in our daily life
Managed to get yoga on the show and be the star again
Went to the museum of the orient to see the exhibition on Chinese opera
06.02.2017
Went body dynamic , people pay to be children again
Ignored the stupid male dominant that that showing muscles
Tried the mr Lu Chinese food again
Managed to be a great trustful base
Got dates on Romeo and outside
Brought costumes to boys at the play and peeped Ivo's navel
07.02.2017
Greeted my guest
Went to rehearsal and managed to stay calm
Managed to get to Belem at 14:00
Did the whole 5h visit
Tried the beer cake along with a nice picture
Back home slept , washed and did laundry while ignoring the lousy massage
09.02.2017
Did a great rehearsal with two guests : director and photographer
Went to a vernissage accompanied and talked to an old friend whom I used to me mad with
Bought flowers and thought about flowers for myself
Managed to get everybody bare feet
Got free sangria
10.03.2017
Cleaned everything for the guest whom I invited for dinner , arrived like King in the Indian restaurant, finally got treated by her
Sent an erratum to the Portuguese newspaper that publish our event with five mistakes
Did great at the Bollywood dance and got to be a star , teased by beautiful boys
Prepared some wraps for everyone
Spoke Arabic with the others
12.02.2017
Got up at 7am and cleaned the room
Opened the space for ten acro monkeys
Massaged two Italian hunks: a blond and a brown , including their sexy bellies
Invited my freak guest to dinner with Kristen and her mother
Managed to prepare wraps for tomorrow
17.02.2017
Got treated at the Indian restaurant
Did a great presentation of Confucius
Had the weirdest and most interesting guest ever : nick
Got a Nigerian scammer make his portrait
Got a free education : just pay a part of your salary
Chat the new Italian up : Marco
26.02
Befriended beautiful Jose military with blue eyes
Went to a nice Chinese dinner
taught Taoism
Led my harem of Muslim girls thru town
Learned 4 steps and snubbed the stupid spaniard
28.02
Organized nice carnival trip to Alhos vedros
Sang tenor for Nowruz
Organized a workshop of acro monkeys along with the performance flying with a gorgeous South African
Got rid of Cristo the lousy spaniard
Got a nice drawing from a Chinese guest
02.03
Was called 'rabo barato' by ennio dildo
Was a star again during the open air rehearsal
Had a good cheap Turkish pizza
Had dinner with two Airbnb : ex and present
Organized a private acro yoga jam with hunks
Sang the best tenor
04.03.17
Saw a gorgeous Portuguese hunk at the dance feet face body abs are perfect lives in Coimbra and studies physics
Will present the history of Persian music with Ennio
Organized a jam with a professional Russian and arranged more mats
Scheduled the Indian play for May
Tried to organize our play for June around time and space travel
07.03.2017
Went to shiv conference 2nd person to attend on foreign studies about india
Made a henna tattoo and tattooed Ennio's hairy arm
Peeped Zé Miguel's hairy belly
Did the flyer in the show and 4 step. Beautiful !
Went to the Russian choir and prepared for the concert
15.03
Improvised singing with Ennio
Presented Persian poetry , was recognized as professor
Lifted the hunky Daniel on reversed bow
Had nice noodles with Carlos
Got Mexican meal discount
9.8.17
Mater un superbe mec à la banque , type musclé latin aux yeux bleus
Mater un poilu dans la rue qui a soulevé son t-shirt et montré son nombril poilu
Toucher le sein et ventre du boche que j'ai guidé dans la tram
Mater le français d'en face qui fumait torse nu à la fenêtre , un peu en chair mais reste sexy
11.8
Lis livre de gaoxinjian
Fais mon yoga
Fait mes courses
Bibliothèque
Vu la performance absurde entertainment du brésilien
Fait de l'acrobatie
15.08
Made fun of the stupid german Felix
Earthquake poisoned water crowded beach and slippery stone to make doctors work
Had some Chinese rice noodles for 5€
Did the Rubik's cube and high barrel roll
Did the Scorpio
Biodanza Danced with two men : tall young hunk cold green eyed in the left - short hairy brown hot on the right
Two sides on my life ;-)
16.8
Managed an English tour by visiting new areas ( Santa Luzia )
Cooked wonderful eggplants
Did my yoga
Went to "black bruise" saw the beautiful João Correia shirtless and even touched his belly
Danced with Mario , the muscular shaman who lifted me up against his crouch
Got stretched by 5 guys
Well , the male meeting is like the sauna without the sex but with the caress and touch
19.08
Got 20€ tip for an easy English tour
Went to seixal , had veg lunch with Manuel , got a dip in the river
Went to a palace park for Acro yoga
Went for dip
Got some nice free peaches , made spare ribs
23.8
Took me just an hour to reach the airport
Left the keys with the nice Ricardo
Smuggled food and water
Took a nice shit because I ate fruits on empty stomach
Had a fantasy that the hunky guards search me entirely naked
14.10
Played with 30 scouts
Led a Thai massage session
1.07.2018
Cern i disconnect the robot and trainees try desperately to fix it
Artistastronaut: crazy Aussie trying to make bubbles on mars while wearing suits in Utah
Woman asked the stupid question of cleaning to two apprentice astronauts who spent weeks in isolation
Great Canadian movie with only calls to fortune tellers
25.01.18
Sex with Latino Eduardo, white, black and asian , 2 in room, 3 in whirlpool in spa excess Toronto - found out that I got hard by licking boys asses
Stayed one week with a Turkish god Baybars . Pictures of his cute belly button
Managed handstand
Massage and sex with Hindu Mark naked guy yoga
Found a book on human evolution by Yuval Noah Harari
11.01.2020
Mega old guy came to yoga class
We did the bird though, he watched, the young and beautiful did.
A crazy woman with untied laces walked along the peer and tumbled. Couscous allez over feeding the swans.
Indulged in San Marco ice cake and sepia bread sandwich
Got my two books reserved at the library and managed to do my shopping
Quite Saturday night resting my body and reading - finally peace of mind found at home
12.01.2020
Got my back handspring
Cooked a wonderful meal
Did the zen meditation next to an American hunk who studies hermeticism
Got rid of useless thoughts
What is my drive ? Am I happy with or without a boyfriend? Or shall I be just fully conscious...
13.01.2020
Happy day! Got healed by Lolita - wrist and thigh
Cooked some nice duck
Great acroyoga jam with the handsome Marko
Great cheerleading session with the handsome Frank
Understood something. Life is not about one goal, but adaptation and flexibility
50% of swiss are burned out ...not me!
14.01.2020
Got to sleep twice 5 hours
Prepared dumplings to go but ate them.
Made a delicious pasta salad out of nothing
Open the door to Ching-Ling
Went to Fab speed dating, chatted up the Swiss Vietnamese Minister
Made some great contacts
15.01.2020
Made a great walk to the park, exercised and read the newspaper
Got myself a nice Mexican meal from Denner
Bought some ash blond at retailer price
Watch a video on deep tissue massage and scratched my face the same way at the gym
But managed some nice back flips
16.01
Did some great translations for LX both French and English
Had a great meal again, mixed veggies in spicy juice
Did my gym in the park and read the paper, managed the whole crossword by myself
Went to Lestime and chatted up a black guy Bertrand
Had a nice contact on gay Romeo with a Yaris ginger guy who sent me his backed pic
17.01
Manages to sleep again till one.
Called Lolita for lunch and another appointment
Walked back and forth to the collage in Champel , makes me happy to walk
Bought some summer rolls and California roll on sale on the way
Great acroyoga jam , pops whips and wash machine , one legged big lemoi
Did two translations - quirky wellness events in Spain and one for Lisbon
18.01
Did backhand spring and back tuck
Even did flyer in extension
Sucked the Richard Santos again and drank it all
Finished my translation
Managed to buy discounted fish and other at Denner
19.01
Went to theater Impro, touch a hunky Russian, gentleman with Indian lady
Went to pickwick again and played board games. Touch a hunky Haitian
Made myself fish great meal
Very cold day, walked back and forth
Managed to take a nap in between
20.01
Did my gym in the park
Did naked yoga with a hunk
Did handstand at the gym
Did promotion for gymnastics
Got job at acrofestival Rödermark
21.01
Did my gym, one sexy Latino showed his belly in the park
Did my shopping , made a taboulé to offer
Managed to take a nap
Went to the gym first time in les grenadiers, lots of young boys with sexy bellies. I am among the best looking ones again.
Started to write about Buddhism.
March 2020
I survived corona virus
Joined a men circle
Did the volunteer in a family tree
Posed for a photographer, thought it was a woman but was a man
Wonderful yoga4men session , hunky Syrian and British
Called Stjepan and sent him the Kybalion
10 April 2020
Went to the park and stretch at the bar in spite of quarantine - police were around the corner but did not see me
Managed to get the horny Algerian twink to show his outie
Managed to get the Haitian diplomat Didier to show his belly
Went shopping after 8pm when there was nobody
Did my handstands successfully in the park
Did two acting parts in the short film project
20.04.2020
Stood one min handstand for the cheers video
Save the neighbor’s cat from my window. 2 firemen to rescue it
Did the Kong-Fu master for the 48hour film
Remember funny moments: Daniele disguised as mummy striped of by kids
Pierre Yves boiled in a supposed warm shower
Tyrone crashing like a frog after leapfrog
Giuli scared by pigeon after inspecting the eggs on my balcony
18.05.20
Covid19. has been positive for me
Train the core before trying anything else, like handstand
Take it slowly , eat well, you ll have more energy , but avoid carbohydrates
The “renown” card keeps on coming up, waiting to be famous
While wandering aimless, I find happiness in things, sunbathing, forest, parks, found money, books and even wax
22.05.2020
Did acroyoga with Michel
Great talks on Psilocybin
Learned to appreciate simple pleasures : sleeping, eating well, defecating, moving and doing art
1.06.2020
got whistled by girls on the street while wearing my gray sweat shorts
got my back cleaned of sand by a lady on the beach
got friendship requests by acroyoga girls, what is going on?

Noël se renouvelle

Un soir de décembre, le jeune Thomas déclara à sa famille recomposée et décomposée par ses propos: 

« Je ne veux pas de nouveaux jouets cette année, mais de nouvelles expériences ! » 

Ce malin petit bonhomme qui grandissait trop vite, son maillot devenu court sur son nombril en escargot, allait changer la destinée de pas mal de gens cette année-là.

Car Noël s'annonça une nouvelle fois dans cette bourgade du nord prospère et presque heureuse, dont les rues illuminées étalaient les richesses de ses magasins. Tels des papillons de nuit, ses habitants vêtus de chaudes couleurs y affluaient et se targuaient de pouvoir s’offrir ce qu’ils voulaient. Attirés par la chaleur bienvenue des commerces, enjoués par les musiques et la beauté des marchandises, ils en oubliaient presque le froid de l'hiver et le labeur accumulé durant toute l'année.

De la joie ? Bien sûr. Comment décrire ce sentiment fugace?

Ses braves citoyens étaient des travailleurs honnêtes, leurs pensées allaient pour leurs proches, leurs amis, leurs enfants et même pour les habitants moins favorisés de l'autre bout du monde. Toutefois, à cette saison un son agaçant se faisait toujours entendre. Un son indescriptible pour ceux qui n'ont pas vécu là-bas. Il ne provenait d'aucun instrument en particulier et n'était joué par aucun musicien. Il émanait de nulle part et pouvait se résumer à ceci : « achetez la joie! » 

Ainsi ironisaient certains: 

« Entre Noël - Sors la Poubelle ! Chaque année, on jette le sapin et ses décorations, les emballages, les restes de repas, et quelques jours plus tard, suivent les vieux jouets et DVD, les habits démodés, les objets qu'on ne veut plus, même les équipements électroniques ne sont plus à jour et doivent être remplacés. »

Toutefois, tout comme Thomas, un collectif de citoyens bien pensants s’était scandalisé : 

« Faisons quelque chose, inventons des Pères Noël à l’envers ! »

« C'est-à-dire ? »

« Des Pères Noël qui viendraient ramasser les choses au lieu d’en distribuer et qui les redonneraient à ceux qui en auraient besoin. »

Cette initiative vint aux oreilles de la famille du petit Thomas, mais aussi par des logiciels espions, à celles d’un capitaine d’industrie. Perfide, ce dernier décida de contre-attaquer. Après tout, il ne voyait pas d’alternative à la joie de la consommation : « Nous allons tout faire pour mettre ces Papas Poubelle hors la loi, on va les accuser de vol et de recel et ils passeront le 25 décembre en prison ! »

Quelques jours avant les fêtes, l'industriel avait mis sa menace à exécution. Les policiers allaient arrêter les bénévoles qui transportaient des objets offerts par les familles engagées dans ce projet de redistribution. Comme nous étions dans un soirée spéciale, un ange dénommé Thomas avait fait appel à ses camarades, et ils changèrent de stratégies: 

« Transformons Noël en une expérience conviviale, et demandons aux petits commerces de mettre à disposition leurs échoppes pour accueillir une sorte de marché au troc. Leur participation serait signalée par une écharpe rouge. »

On pouvait y apporter et emporter ce qu’on voulait. Ainsi, tout enfant pouvait donner par exemple des pommes et recevoir une console vidéo. Les gens échangèrent des choses chères contre des livres, des fruits et des légumes frais, et des services comme une coupe de cheveux, ou un cours de yoga. Tout ça dans la joie et la convivialité ! Le capitaine d’industrie n’y revenait pas :

« C’est la catastrophe, plus personne ne viendra acheter mes jouets neufs, sans la consommation, l’économie ne tournera plus ! »

« Rassurez vous, lui susurra Thomas, lui-même inspiré de ses parents, l’économie tournera toujours mais différemment, une économie de troc et d’échange, qui permettra de limiter la surproduction et son poids sur l’environnement. »

Sur ces mots, le capitaine d’industrie échangea sa montre de luxe contre des biscuits en forme de coeur et s’en alla.

The way we teach

We teach the way we were taught. So which is the best way to teach?

First, enough theory. We need to watch demos, we learn from what we see not so much from what we hear.

Secondly, feel the movement, not the exercise. What is its effect ? On me? On the partners?

Thirdly, forget the consciousness! Rather focus on your internal (feet/hands) and the external (the base or the flyer). What are the consequences of your cues?

Finally, gather these three elements: coordination (internal focus), control and skills (external focus).



What is the goal?

The yoga pose is not the goal.Becoming flexible is not the goal. Standing on your hands is not the goal.

The goal is to create space where you were once stuck. To unveil the layers of protection you’ve built around your heart. To appreciate your body and become aware of the mind and the noise it creates. To make peace with who you are. The goal is to love, well… You. 

Pourquoi faut-il jouer au docteur avec la Chine?

Pourquoi faut-il jouer au docteur avec la Chine ?

A l’heure où les échauffourées avant les jeux olympiques commencent, je voudrais tout d’abord saluer le courage et la ténacité du peuple tibétain et des personnes qui les soutiennent. Pourtant, les valeurs qui régissent la politique chinoise ne sont que peu touchées. Je voudrais aussi expliquer pourquoi les puissances occidentales ne réagissent pas comme il conviendrait. Cela tient du fait de leur méconnaissance de la mentalité chinoise et de leur couardise. Pourtant, plus de bon sens changerait beaucoup, sans verser ni de sang ni de larmes.

Beaucoup de gens en Europe, y compris les intellectuels n’ont qu’une connaissance superficielle de la Chine : «la nourriture est bonne parce que légère » ;« ils sont partout » ; « mon cousin a une amie chinoise qui sourit tout le temps ».

Les forces sous jacentes du paradigme sociétal chinois ne leur sont pas compréhensibles, pour la simple et bonne raison qu’il leur faudrait totalement alterner leurs perspectives intimes et innées. En bref, imaginer que la Terre n’est plus ronde mais triangulaire avec la Chine trônant au sommet. La vie n’est plus faite d’amour, de haine et de peur comme en Occident. La vie n’existe pas. Ou plutôt la vie est biologique, s’opposant à la mort, mais elle n’implique rien du tout, aucune licence, aucune dérogation, et surtout aucun droit. La vie en Chine reste un supplice.

Le Chinois naît supplicié. La vie lui est amertume et souffrance (xinku). Autour de lui, tout n’est que combat, compétition et coups bas. Il faut étudier puis travailler douze heures par jour, des avortements forcés ont lieu jusqu’au sixième mois ; en tout temps, on risque de perdre son porte-monnaie, son emploi et ses organes et par-dessus tout sa face. Des concepts tel que ‘bonheur’ (fuyou) ou ‘satisfaction’ (manyi) sont intraduisibles parce qu’ils ne couvrent pas du tout le même système de valeurs. Le bonheur n’est rendu que par l’argent et la satisfaction signifie que l’esprit ne se pose plus de question. D’autres notions telles que la compassion, la miséricorde ou même l’amour impliquent une réalité totalement décalée de la nôtre. L’amour (aï - elle fait mal) se fredonne dans les chansons et se retrouve dans la poésie, mais n’existe aucunement dans son acceptation judéo-chrétienne. Ce n’est pas que les Chinois n’aiment pas, le mot n’est juste jamais mentionné, car il implique une faiblesse, une concession au non-pragmatisme.

La Chine continentale peut faire preuve de cruauté et d’iniquité inimaginables, mais indispensables au bon fonctionnement des affaires nationales. D’abord, la surpopulation est une calamité et la vie ne vaut rien. Les peuples de la périphérie sont stupides de rejeter leur chance de rentrer au sein du grand empire. La colonisation du Tibet et d’autres minorités serait comme un sacrifice de la part des Chinois. Ils acceptent de les intégrer dans la Civilisation même si le pays est déjà en surnombre. Enfin, les barbares, c’est à dire tout le reste du monde y compris l’Europe, sont des plaies. Des plaies récurrentes avec qui il faut faire avec, parce que suintantes. Des plaies qu’il faut soigner autrement elles risquent de dégénérer. La Chine devient docteur du monde, rachetant la dette américaine et s’élevant au premier rang avec 1 040 milliards de dollars de réserve en 2007. Elle s’occupe de nos maux quotidiens, de la brosse à dent à la voiture. Sans nous donner de leçon, à quoi bon, il ne faut pas que le malade parviennent à fabriquer ses remèdes. Bref, elle est notre bienfaitrice à tous.

La Chine est aussi supplice. Pas un supplice brutal ou évident. C’est un supplice long et agonisant. C’est une baguette que l’on fait avaler lentement, parcelle après parcelle ; d’abord dans la bouche, pour se nourrir ; puis dans la gorge, elle gène mais on s’y habitue. Finalement, elle pénètre plus profondément, provoquant des spasmes et des vomissements. Elle est devenue un mal nécessaire, terrible et inévitable, et les forces occidentales tiennent à être les premières à en recevoir les morceaux lorsqu’elle ressortira par voie naturelle. Salie, écœurante et empreinte de taches de sang, la baguette chinoise restera-t-elle celle qui auscultera le monde ?

Je dirai que non, le monde libre a le droit de changer de médecin, de refuser de payer des honoraires exorbitants ou tout simplement de ne payer que lorsqu’on est guéri comme dans le temps de la Chine ancienne. Tout empire qu’est la Chine, de l’argent sans dessein, du travail sans éthique, des soldats sans code et des dirigeants sans âme, n’en font qu’une coquille vide, ce qui est par ailleurs la pire des insultes en chinois.

Kong Chin-Sui, doctorant, Genève